Tolerating the Intolerant

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Marriage made both of them sacrifice. Their frequencies didn’t match still they tolerated each other for a long time and then one fine day, the husband met someone of his own kind. His heart failed to listen to his mind. Her eyes, her smile and her voice moved like a movie inside. How much ever he tried he couldn’t control her entry into his mind, she used to come anytime without any warning or signs which made him involuntary smile.

His wife detected something wrong in him; she tried to figure it out on her own will.

“What is it that makes him so happy?” she wondered.

Following and spying on him made her realize his attraction for some other woman. Surprisingly, she was neither angry nor sad; she just felt empty and blank. Over analysing the situation made her feel victimized. She knew that he was not her soul mate or for that matter even a mate but regardless she was ready to compromise her life and her happiness in the name of the marriage.

Their parents set them up together, fate tied them up together and they were thrown into this together so why should she be the only one to suffer? Along with all of this, how could she forget that this marriage also forced her to leave her studies and it brutally snatched her dreams trapping her inside this meaningless relationship. Also, the huge sum of dowry he took how can he justify it with his behavioural outlook? She knew that her worthiness was much more than the regular abuses he gave her.

Her head was pounding calculating all the sacrifices and compromises she made. She didn’t know what to do now, she felt as if she should stand up for herself now at least, to fight for what she wants and what she deserves. She never wanted such a life with an unfaithful husband and shattered dreams.

“I will not let this issue go this time, I will stand up and fight for my rights” she adamantly decides, but the question which runs in her mind is how will she do it? How will she get out of this trap and what about the notorious society which will naturally make her look like an accuse in all of this?

She didn’t know what to do and how to go about it, the right choice currently seemed was confrontation. She wanted to confront her husband, to talk to him and to know about his views and his feelings. She wanted both of them to get rid of each other.

Somehow, she gathered all her courage the next day and went to confront her husband. His reaction was something which was least expected; He showed no remorse or any regret. In fact it seemed as he was feeling quite proud about his infidelity. He laughed at her and mocked her. He was surprised that she hadn’t realised as of now that their marriage was just a lie, a lie for the society to cherish and enjoy.

He just gave her one reply, “You will be destroyed after leaving me, this world will never accept you as it is, so your choice.”

Her confused, lonely and insecure self then made her take decisions which in future she would regret.

Her mistake was that she decided to tolerate, to tolerate all the injustice thrown in her face as she found herself to be too weak and too alone to do something. Eventually her life ended just like that as she feared standing up for herself.

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51 thoughts on “Tolerating the Intolerant

    aayusi said:
    July 26, 2015 at 9:48 am

    ❤ beautifully written!
    There was a rhythm throughout that's captivating ❤

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    izza ifzaal said:
    July 26, 2015 at 10:49 am

    This reality is barbaric and it sucks women have to be on the receiving end of Jilt.. A strong post

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      preetixd responded:
      July 26, 2015 at 11:22 am

      Thankyou Izza! There are so many women who are living a life of compromise having their hands and legs tied by the rope named as a society.

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        izza ifzaal said:
        July 26, 2015 at 1:41 pm

        Ahh this all just scares the hell out of me

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        preetixd responded:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:22 pm

        You’re not alone here. It scares me too 😦

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    bhatmahesht said:
    July 26, 2015 at 11:39 am

    Beutifully explained. This can happen very much in many relationships only the end result as to get destroyed.

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      preetixd responded:
      July 26, 2015 at 12:39 pm

      I totally agree with you! Thankyou so much! 🙂

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    Gaurav Luthra said:
    July 26, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    You would not believe it but I was just trying to write my poetry on exactly the same topic and you described it so well. Let’s hope I can put it in poetry as well too. This exact situation happen with the lady who lives just on the upper floor at where I live.

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      preetixd responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 5:26 pm

      This issue is so common right? Whoever read this gave some example.
      Life is too short to just strive, everybody should have the right to life, A HAPPY AND SATISFIED LIFE.

      Btw, I’m looking forward for your poem 🙂

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        Gaurav Luthra said:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:36 pm

        I will put it up as soon as I complete it. I have the thought, just need the write words and that ‘aha’ moment to come together (I think as a writer, you can relate to what I am talking about).

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        preetixd responded:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:37 pm

        Yes Yes, I can 😛 This post was written after a week or so. Finally the ‘Aha’ moment came. Lol.

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        Gaurav Luthra said:
        July 28, 2015 at 10:59 pm

        http://lifeintinysteps.com/2015/07/29/a-women-but-not-an-object/ Finished it although maybe not the best attempt but a decent attempt I would say after really thinking about how to put it together 🙂

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    impostorpawn said:
    July 26, 2015 at 3:22 pm

    oh wow, this is amazing.I was transfixed.
    Great story and awareness

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    HumaAq said:
    July 26, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    It’s such a sad story but a true one for many. That was the moment, the exact moment when she felt helpless to leave, she would have found a new better life. Once she compromised with that, her life was over. But that step is hardest especially in the eastern society, that ends so many lives.
    It was very engaging story, good job on it

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      preetixd responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 5:05 pm

      Thankyou so much! You know, there is always this one phase where you get a chance to break all the bonds but with chance hardly any courage comes. That BIG PUSH is required you know, to do something as per our wish. The fear for the future and the trauma the society will give us never allows one to leave. Life is too short to compromise, I feel that one should grasp whatever chance they get and see what resides for them in the future, there will always be a probability for a better life in future, just maybe. Its better try and regret rather than not trying and regretting.

      Anyways, its way too easier said then done.

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        HumaAq said:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:12 pm

        I completely agree with you and also with what your last sentence there said. I say big but I don’t know anything about struggle and the lives people may live in fear. I respect them but then I don’t respect their choices.

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        preetixd responded:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:21 pm

        Yeah! I read this statement once, “We think that line between good and bad is impermeable but maybe those in the good side have never been tested”

        Similarly, In this context I wonder,
        Now that I have not been tested how will I know about the people who suffer? and why they keep suffering?

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        HumaAq said:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:32 pm

        But we can the motivator a ray of hope, sunshine for them. Its not like small struggles we suffer don’t mean anything. Every person has his/her own fight

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        preetixd responded:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:34 pm

        Yeah Right 🙂 You gave me something new to think upon. Thankyou so much ❤

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        HumaAq said:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:40 pm

        Oh welcome I wonder alot too like you. Especially for the ones who are literate and been with me all along. Their everyday struggle after marriage makes me so thankful for my situation. I regret though why would they become like this, live a life where they can’t be themselves:/

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        preetixd responded:
        July 29, 2015 at 12:55 pm

        God knows, there might be something, something so strong stopping them to be themselves.

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    Abhijit said:
    July 26, 2015 at 4:30 pm

    Hey I really liked your Blog and many thanks for following my blog….

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      preetixd responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 5:05 pm

      Thankyou so much and Your welcome 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

        Abhijit said:
        July 28, 2015 at 5:07 pm

        You are welcome and thanks too.. 😜😜
        Happy blogging…👌

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    Manvendra said:
    July 26, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    Nice one . This is something which shows the importance of mutual bonding and understanding. Parents these days judge boy for their daughters on the basis of amount of money he earn , how big is his house and how many properties his family have got . Infact many girls do the same . In the rush of materialistic demands the main need of checking the compatibility get disguised and ignored.
    Everybody want a castle , nobody want to build one . And this greed lead to many such dead relationship where they have everything but love.With right partner one can achieve something which cant b bought with money i.e. peace of mind .

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    lifeconfusions said:
    July 26, 2015 at 8:30 pm

    This was such a well written story capturing the stigma of our society…You are really talented writer Preeti ! 🙂

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    lamarrwenrich said:
    July 27, 2015 at 6:21 am

    So well written
    So sad
    Thanks for sharing 😊

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    theonlysup said:
    July 27, 2015 at 7:11 am

    was this a real story preeti ?
    so much to say . anyway the way u wrote it kept me engrossed in it completely .
    Marriage if not about i sacrificed or u sacrificed , its about shared dreams and how they live that dreams together.

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      preetixd responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 5:13 pm

      It is not a real story but yes a real story, it happens a lot you know.
      This story may or may not be exactly the same but the core message that I am trying to deliver via this post is something which almost every eastern society woman faces. She learns to master the art of compromise and sacrifice.

      I totally agree with you. I rather be single than have such a marriage.
      Anyway, Thankyou so much My fav reader 🙂

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        theonlysup said:
        July 28, 2015 at 6:47 pm

        Awe preeti. Hearing this from u made me so happy . I always have liked ur writing , ur views from day 1 .. Ur my favorite too. Can’t deny it 🙂

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        preetixd responded:
        July 29, 2015 at 12:56 pm

        🙂 Thankyou so much Supreet. Feels so good.

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        theonlysup said:
        July 29, 2015 at 2:05 pm

        Waiting for ur next post dear. 🙂

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        preetixd responded:
        July 30, 2015 at 1:36 pm

        Very soon 🙂

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    Darshith Badiyani said:
    July 28, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    I could feel the words. It takes courage to raise your voice and also to write something so powerful as this. Thank you Preeti for sharing and I just feel sad when others force their choices on us and think that whatever they do is good for us and our feelings and our choices are naught.

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      preetixd responded:
      July 28, 2015 at 5:15 pm

      I agree with each and every that you said here. Its so funny right that we think as if we know what is right for the other person we forget the fact that we’re nobody to dictate their lifes.

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        Darshith Badiyani said:
        July 29, 2015 at 5:26 am

        Yes, it happens many times that we know how others should behave, how others should dress, how they should talk and rest. but we ourselves don’t know how we should do the stuff correctly 😉 Meddling with others’ business is like our birth right and we take full use of that 😀 Topic has changed 😉

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        preetixd responded:
        July 29, 2015 at 12:47 pm

        Who are we to decide what is correct and what I not 😛
        Lol yea, topic is diverting somewhere else only all together.

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        Darshith Badiyani said:
        July 29, 2015 at 12:53 pm

        Yeah, legs bring an end to this 😉 Good day 😀

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        preetixd responded:
        July 29, 2015 at 12:59 pm

        Hahaha 😛 Lets* Good day to you too 🙂

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    Cynthia said:
    July 30, 2015 at 4:52 am

    This rings the harsh truth … I really wish our elders would realize how much of a mistake they are making by forcing 2 people into a relationship by playing match the following in terms of wealth, caste, religion and looks. I never understood why we care so much about the society in India. We stop living our own lives and willingly adorn ourselves with the senseless labels which society throws at us , why do we do this .. I’ll never know .
    Thank for writing such an amazing thought proving post , i loved it 🙂

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      preetixd responded:
      July 30, 2015 at 1:45 pm

      I feel the diversity which we have and the engraved discrimination somehow acts as the major reason for this. Everybody wants to keep their clan dominant enough. So they end up caring a lot about the society instead of individual lives. They don’t realize the dent they are creating in mankind by snatching away the freedom of people to live their life the way they want to live.

      Thankyou so much Cynthia 🙂

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    Cynthia said:
    July 31, 2015 at 5:56 am

    True ! Weird right ? they think they are caring only for themselves and end up caring about the whole lot… Thank you so much for replying 🙂
    Keep writing !

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    Prateek Kohli said:
    September 27, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    So harsh :/
    And so honestly written ! Talks of so many aspects and prejudices associated with our society in such a captivating manner!

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      preetixd responded:
      September 28, 2015 at 6:59 pm

      Thanks Prateek 🙂

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